Yesterday I had an amazing conversation with my dear sister- not my sister by blood, but in Christ. I was having one of those weeks last week, when I was doubting myself, and struggling with a child and his behavior. So before we prayed together, she offered up some much needed wise words.
I kept saying, “Why isn’t he obedient? Why doesn’t he want to be obedient? What am I doing wrong?”
Oh, her words were wise. They were directly from the Lord, and were something that I, of course knew, but boy had I forgotten. In my quest for obedience, I was completely forgetting my duty- to point my son to His need for a Savior. How often do we get wrapped up in correcting, disciplining, and lecturing that we leave it at that. I was forgetting the most important thing- to teach my son that he can NOT be obedient on his own. He needs a Savior.
“Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” Acts 4:12
“all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:23-24
Oh as parents that we get to teach this everyday is a privilege. We can so often be wrapped up in the rules, we forget the grace, the mercy…I was like a Pharisee. Do this, do that, don’t do this, don’t do that…but I wasn’t focusing on the fact that my son needs to know that NONE of us can behave on our own. None of use can obey on our own. Only by God’s doing, do we have the desire to obey. So my job is still to discipline, but to make sure I am continuing to point out the need for a Savior…so that day will come when he sees that need, and turns over his heart to the Lord.
Outward behavior does not equal a repentant heart. I do not want my children to behave out of fear, or out of rules, but out of their love for God and because of a repentant heart…and recognizing they can never do it without Him.
In our homeschool this year we are studying the Gospels. I am beyond expectant of what God will do through our lessons- for my children and for myself. I am so grateful HE is the true teacher each day, and I have the blessing of pointing my children to their need for a Savior. We love Him because of WHO He is and not because of what He can do for us. And He truly is amazing, awesome, powerful, and mighty. And He truly does offer grace and mercy.
I am thankful this week for that grace and mercy…now to pass it on to my children…