To celebrate my new book I am sharing a FREE Printable with 20 Ways to Keep it Real Right Now!
This book will focus on not conforming to this world, but being transformed by Him. We will stop following the world’s standards, and follow His standards. We do this by having authentic and God-honoring relationships, spending time with Him and seeking out His will for us; and by ending the ideals we have created in our minds of what perfect should be. We will let His Word have the last word on our lives!
20 Ways to Keep It Real Right Now
- Invite a friend over for coffee, spontaneously, and leave your house just the way it is. Focus on relationships and not things. Don’t try to impress with the perfect house. A listening ear or a good laugh (or cry!) is so much more meaningful. Fight the urge to make everything perfect –be real.
- Start a moms prayer group. Meet weekly at the park when the weather is warm. The kids can play while the moms pray. We used to do this, and I called it, Pray & Play Day.
- Commit to reading God’s Word before anything else each morning. This is a discipline that will reap far more benefits than you can imagine! What we fill our mind with matters.
- Offer to watch another mom’s kids just because. Perhaps that mom just needs to be home. Alone. Taking her kids, even for an hour, may help her reset and refocus. Be a blessing. In return, you will be blessed.
- Take an Internet fast. Every time you feel the need to “check in” online, check in with God. He is right there waiting for you all the time. So often we turn to see what others are doing or tell others what we are doing. Spend that time with the Lord instead.
- Post a picture online without staging it just so. Let others know that you are keeping it real!
- Ask for help. Do not be ashamed to call a friend to ask for prayer, or even if she can take your kids for an hour or two. We need to reach out; we aren’t meant to struggle alone. Chances are, your friends need you as much as you need them.
- When tempted to wallow in self-pity because your homeschool doesn’t look like another’s, remind yourself it is not supposed to look like anyone else’s. Immediately start a list of what God is doing in your homeschool. Keep your focus where it needs to be. Then ask Him to show you where you can improve or what He wants for your family. Then follow Him. Trust Him. He will lead you.
- Keep a gratitude journal. Refer to it often when you are feeling discouraged. Most likely, you will see you have far more blessings than you thought.
- Start an accountability group. Gather a few girlfriends and promise to keep it real with each other. Call them when you feel you are struggling.
- Have that same accountability group help keep you accountable for online time. When you see each other online too much, remind each other where your hearts need to be. Take it a step further, and keep a log of time spent online; if you are lacking the self-control, this log will help you recognize if your online time is getting to be excessive.
- Resist the urge to post every picture and every memory. Keep some just for your family. Not everything needs to be shared.
- Ditch the curriculum catalogs. If you are happy with your curriculum, don’t look at any others, no matter how great someone else insists they are. If your curriculum is working for you, stick with it. The less clutter, the more likely you are to stay focused.
- Resist the urge to say yes to every extracurricular activity out there. Yes, we want our kids to be “well-rounded”–isn’t that the excuse we always use?– If it is causing you stress, it is not bearing fruit. Only choose things that are truly beneficial; avoid making choices for the sake of trying to look busy or keep up with anyone else.
- Have cereal for dinner sometimes. Really. It’s okay. Not every meal has to look like a Pinterest recipe. Kids just want to eat! And hey, every once in a while, cereal is a fun alternative.
- Stop working on the homeschool room. If you have a designated space to keep everything, that sure helps with organization, but don’t fret over the details. Don’t think it has to be pretty to be successful. A plastic bin serves the same function as a pretty basket from the designer store. God cares what our children’s hearts look like, not what the homeschool room looks like.
- Own up to your mistakes. Say you’re sorry. When kids see that even mom makes mistakes, they will learn how to take responsibility for their own mistakes. Let them see your need for a Savior. Let them know that no one is perfect. We all need a Savior.
- Cultivate a thirst for eternal and not material treasures. There is much more value in those things! Start by getting rid of physical clutter that is causing you stress. Simplify, simplify, simplify!
- Join the movement. Will you share with your homeschool community the need to be real? It is actually contagious. When others see someone who is real and down to earth, they are drawn to them. We all crave it. So be it. Invite others on the journey with you. Use the hashtag #RealHomeschool in your media. Let the world know, we are taking off our facades and living life real.
- Share this book with another friend. Let the need to be real spread throughout the homeschooling community. Let’s get back to God. Let’s ditch the perfect, for His perfect.
©2015 Karen DeBeus
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